Tuesday, February 10, 2009

In need of advice!

I am in desperate need of some advice. Zoe has started her terrible twos really early. She will just scream if i try to give her a bath or get her dressed, or if I dont let her watch tv or do whatever it is that she wants to do. So i have been putting her in her bedroom to see if she will calm down but she has figured out how to open the door and so she gets out. I have spent the last 2 hours to try to get her to stop screaming. I am about ready to pull my hair out. Is there anything else i can try, cause she doesn't stay on time out either. Am I doing something wrong? Please let me know of anything that you have tried so i can try it myself.

13 comments:

Jessy and Kurt Antonino!!!! said...

Janalee, you are doing everything right, just don't give up on the time out, if she open the door, you put her back again, and let her know that if she opens one more time the door, you will have to sit her on a chair until she calms her self down. I have Garrett is doing the same thing, HORRIBLE TWO, and he is still on that. It is hard to punishment, when they know all the tricks to be out of the time out. One thing that works for me is when I put him on time out, I sit him on a chair close to my eyes, and if he moves, he gets until three to get back, after counting three and he is not on the chair he will get a spank on his butt, and I will sit close to him, until he calms his self down. good luck. But remember don't give up on times out. Be consistent on what you teach and told her. jessy

joker said...

I'm not expert, you've seen how my kids act, but I used to just ignore them. If they started to throw a fit, I just leave them wherever they are and act like nothing is wrong. It's much easier said then done. good luck!
Jamie

Jamie said...

Poor janalee. I feel your pain. This is the story of my life. Like the last two comments, I totally agree. Consitancy and ignoring! I'm really mean and I'll tie hunters door shut with one of Luke's old church ties. (Hmmm...hopefully no one turns me in for child abuse! Ha!) But, I do have one of those defiant children. So, just stick to what you're doing. I think it's also important to praise and reward for good behavior too.
But, if anyone has the answers on how to "perfectly" raise children... send them my way. I think I need the advice more than I should give it. Hang in there. You're a great mom!

The Wrights said...

Oh I am so sorry! Hang in there.. I wish I could help. Good Luck!

Jesse said...

Hey Janalee, this is Jill Elies. I found a book that seriously has worked wonders for our home. It's called 1-2-3 Magic, by Dr. Phelan. I started doing it about a year ago and my household has completely turned around. It's nothing crazy, it really just teaches parents how to react to situations, and not get emotions involved in discipline. Keeps me sane and happy, even during terrible two's. Jayci is almost 2 and already mostly understands the concept because she's watched us do it with Jack for the past year. But like comments above, any discipline has to be consistent.

Seriously LOVE the book though. I highly recommend it to anyone!

I also put one of those plastic child proof door knobs on the inside of my kids' rooms and only shut them in during time out with a kitchen timer. As soon as the timer rings I open the door but they can choose if they want to come out.

Chablis said...

Poor Janalee! I happen to think that the terrible 2's always start at 15 months!

My advise to you is to just walk away from Zoe when she starts to throw a tantrum. The whole purpose of her acting that way is to get your attention. If you just walk away and ignore her, she will realize that isn't the way to get what she wants.

For other situations, a naughty chair, corner, of stair has worked like magic for our girls. Good luck!

Brand N' Kys said...

I hear duck tape is made for two year olds... worked great with CJ! Haha! I am scared for a two year old!

Kruger Family Blog said...

Ive heard alot of Oxycotin will do the trick bahahahah I kill myself.

Heather said...

just be consistent! because the minute you back down they know they can get away with it, its hard at first, but I have to agree with others ignoring them when they throw fits works, as long as you stick to it, they eventually will get the clue that throwing tantrums won't get them what they want! its easier said than done, but remember you are the parent and stick to your intuition, you know her better than any of us, do what is comfortable for you!

Dave and Corey Johnson said...

Janalee-I am so sorry. Parker started his terrible twos early too and I still throw my hands up in the air everyday and ask myself the same question. It seems like even if you are doing everything right every kid has a mind of their own and you can do very little to control them. Good Luck.

Jenny Bebel said...

Hang in there it will end at some point! I would say dido to everything everyone else has said! Good luck!!!!

Jill said...

Hey, I'm sorry I never responded to your comment. I have a horrible memory. Anyways, YBCR discontinued their account with Usborne, but I still have a copy in my inventory that I'd love to sell so I'll save it for you if you want it. Also, you can buy the 123 magic book at any bookstore or online. I bought mine at Deseret Book when I was just browsing for nothing in particular, so mine is called 123 magic for christian parents. It's the exact same thing but with some scripture here and there.

Ashley said...

get yourself some ear plugs and be consistent! Kids are smart so she will catch on if you start to give in and then that gives her the advantage.